Blogfest Day 7 ~ G is for Grey Areas

When we are young , life is viewed through a lens that distinguishes between black and white . It is a dichotomous world which has two positions for most things . People are neatly divided into two packages : good and bad , young and old , friends and non-friends . Issues are legal or illegal , moral or immoral , true or false . Games are fair or foul . In other words , you only choose one or the other . As simple as that.

As you grow older , it is not so straightforward anymore . There is an in-between area . The grey area of life . This is where the lines blur , become hazy , clouded . We realise that not everything is transparent , some things are unclear . There are boundaries between several things that are not obvious , not understandable . Something can be viewed in different ways or be identified by different categories . For example , the concept of friend and non-friend takes on a different meaning . It is not so cut-and-dried anymore . You differentiate layers of "friends" : bosom buddy , workplace friend , friend you meet for coffee , confidante , etc.

The significant factor is that nobody warns you or prepares you for the "grey areas" of life . It is something you learn through trial and error . You come to realise things through various life experiences – both positive and negative . These life challenges help to mould and shape your way of thinking , and ultimately determine your mindset . On a daily basis , your thought processes grow … change … evolve … I don't think that anybody can actually tell you or prepare you for life's "grey areas" . You have to discover it for yourself . It is part and parcel of the delicate mental maturation process . And even if it were possible to prepare an individual , when is the right time ? A certain age ? Which age ? When a specific milestone is reached ? Which milestone ? It becomes a mine field because every individual is unique , develops and matures at a different rate …


  1. mooderino on April 9, 2011 at 12:33 pm

    Well put. Thanks for stopping by at my blog, have subscribed to your RSS and will be back!
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    • mish on April 9, 2011 at 4:07 pm

      Thanks mooderino ~~ will do likewise ! 🙂

  2. Tara Tyler on April 9, 2011 at 12:47 pm

    you wrote from your deep thoughts. it's true, you can teach right and wrong, but you can't teach the exceptions and the judgment to know what's right in your heart. as a parent, you do your best as situations arise and hope that you've done a good job raising them when they go out on their own. =)
    Happy G & H day!

    • mish on April 9, 2011 at 4:13 pm

      Absolutely true ! I think that the grey area is where people tend to feel more comfortable . But I’m not going into details now . Thanks for your input ! 🙂

  3. Ruby Young on April 9, 2011 at 8:33 pm

    Hi, I really enjoyed the posting for today.:) and look forward to reading the next one. Wouldn't it be so much easier if we could continue to see things as black or white? But then….you are cerrect, we can't avoid the grey areas as we grow up and learn to evaluate matters more clearly.
    thanks for stopping by my way, and hope you'll visit again. Ruby

    • mish on April 10, 2011 at 9:49 pm

      Thanks Ruby ~~ life would probably be simpler if we could continue to see things as black or white ; but I think it would mean a lack of growth … we would become stagnant … under-developed …

  4. Charmaine Clancy on April 10, 2011 at 12:09 am

    I live in grey 🙂
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    • mish on April 10, 2011 at 9:53 pm

      Then you must be comfortable with yourself because I think that the grey area is where we give ourselves leeway … a break … let our hair down … Thanks for popping in Charmaine 🙂

  5. damyanti on April 10, 2011 at 2:38 am

    "nobody warns you or prepares you for the "grey areas" of life"— this is such an important lesson, the one on grey areas….and learning it marks the passage into adulthood. At least it did for me. Thanks for this post.

    • mish on April 10, 2011 at 10:00 pm

      I agree with you Damyanti ~~ the grey area lesson is accompanied by a better sense of identity … you come into your own … begin to make choices/decisions that suit you … 🙂

  6. Kit Courteney on April 10, 2011 at 5:14 pm

    Oooh, interesting.
    Life is certainly 'fuller' with grey areas but that's not always a good thing. To grow through experience is though, so a complete range of greys is probably the way to go!

    • mish on April 11, 2011 at 2:01 pm

      Hey Kit ~~ life is certainly ‘fuller’ which also means a variety of experiences and more opportunities for growth ~ wouldn’t you agree ?

  7. Jingle on April 11, 2011 at 2:17 pm

    wise words…love your insights on life.
    well done.

    • mish on April 11, 2011 at 2:47 pm

      Thanks Jingle ~~ and thanks for popping in ! 🙂

  8. 2mara on April 14, 2011 at 4:53 pm

    This a great post. I hadn't really thought about it this way before, but I don't think it should be forced on the young. We discovered, and so will they. It's part of intellectual growth and adapting to societal norms.
    Very thought provoking stuff.

    • mish on April 14, 2011 at 6:21 pm

      You’re so right ~ it’s a growth process … doesn’t happen overnight !

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