Blogfest Day 9 ~ I is for Idiot … I told you so …

There are none so blind as those who will not see . And none so deaf as those who will not hear . And in matters of the heart , this is even tougher …

I was once acquainted with this person who became over-excited whenever she met a "potential" boyfriend . She hyped herself and would read all sorts of things into the relationship , before it had even started . She would become starry-eyed , accompanied by a sense of neediness ~ a potent combination ~ enough to doom any possible relationship-in-the-making . The conclusion was always the same . She swallowed any BS dished out by the flame-of-the-moment , and set herself up for disappointment . Inevitably , she would end up broken-hearted . But she didn't learn …

She wasn't just thick-skinned . More like armour-plated . Or better still , bullet-proof . And she did it over and over again , a couple of times , to be precise . Like the movie Groundhog Day ? The gist of the story is : It is morning . Man wakes up in his guest house room . Lo and behold , it is the morning of the day before . All over again . Everything that happened to him the previous day , it all happens again . He spends the night again . Wakes up the next morning . It is the same day as yesterday and the day before and the same events repeat themselves , like a broken record . Action replay . Over and over . In her case , it was the same old BS , different man … get my drift ? One would think that she'd have a de-ja vu moment … She was definitely stuck in a time loop of self-delusion . It was risky business , treading on dangerous ground . Once you've been the route of tact and diplomacy , which obviously "fell on deaf ears", then what do you do to help ? You gotta tell it like it is . Quit pulling punches .

SHE : (dreamily) I think this is the one .

ME : Heard it all before … or have you forgotten ?

SHE : No , this time it's different .

ME : (skeptically) In what way ? Please do enlighten me …

SHE : Don't be such a party pooper ! At least be happy for me .

I give her that look . You know the one that says , are you right in your head ? Don't you ever learn ?

ME : Tell me , how did you meet ?

SHE : Through an online dating service .

ME : Tsk tsk tsk – you poor thing ! That reminds me of your ex , Mr. Serial-Dater . Remember him ? The one who made sure that all the chicks he dated knew that he was 'in demand' and a 'real catch' ?

Maybe reminders will help save the day !!

SHE : He is quite progressive . A real go-getter !

ME : Reminds me of your ex , Mr. Know-It-All . Remember him ? The brain box who bragged non-stop about his accomplishments and 'climbing the corporate ladder' ?

Maybe reminders will help save the day ?? 

SHE : And he has such gorgeous , dreamy eyes …

ME : Reminds me of your ex , Mr. Airhead Adonis . Remember him ? Your Mr-Gorgeous-To-Look-At but when he opened his mouth it became apparent that he should have kept it shut ?

Maybe reminders will help save the day .

By this time , she'd heard enough already … didn't want reminders , after all …

That was months ago . Just heard last week that Mr-Flame-Of-The-Moment has a recently-estranged wife … and wifey just won the lotto ! OUCH !!




  1. Tara Tyler on April 11, 2011 at 10:56 pm

    Sounds like she's addicted to falling in love. Sad that, like with any addiction, she might have to hit rock bottom before realizing there is a problem. Maybe an intervention?
    Happy I Day!

    • mish on April 13, 2011 at 3:07 pm

      Sometimes hitting rock bottom is the only way in which the addict learns ~ but the trick is to come out of the whole experience in “one piece” , mentally & emotionally .

  2. Robyn Campbell on April 11, 2011 at 11:01 pm

    Double ouchy. WHOA. I'm sure the lotto will win out. Love your I post. I knew someone like that one time too. Hmm, must be oodles of ladies like that. 🙂 Thanks for the visit and comment over at my house today.

    • mish on April 13, 2011 at 3:09 pm

      Doubly ouch , for sure ! One of life’s double twists … LOL ! I agree with you ~ lotto will win out !
      Thanks for the comment . 🙂

  3. Talli Roland on April 12, 2011 at 12:20 pm

    It does sound like she's addicted to love!

    • Marjorie on April 12, 2011 at 3:33 pm

      I concur she is addicted to falling in love.  I have a male friend like that.  To top it off he is from the patriarchal school that is Portugal.  Turns out even Portuguese women are learning they have no masters and he then moves on.  I try to tell him he can't try to be the boss or he'll lose.  does he get it?  No.

      • mish on April 13, 2011 at 3:13 pm

        It’s just unfair that the males seem to get away with it , somehow . No real stigma attached in the male scenario …

    • mish on April 13, 2011 at 3:10 pm

      At this stage , probably addicted to the idea of being in love … 🙂

  4. Karla on April 12, 2011 at 7:46 pm

    Hi – yep, sounds like addiction to me!  Great to meet you through the A-Z challenge and thanks for your visit today.
    All best

    • mish on April 13, 2011 at 3:14 pm

      Thanks for popping in as well ! Enjoy the rest of A~Z !! 🙂

  5. 2mara on April 14, 2011 at 4:58 pm

    they never do learn… I just shake my head and move on.

    • mish on April 14, 2011 at 6:24 pm

      You can only do so much to help , then you have to let it go and hope that the individual will someday ‘see the light’ !

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