There are none so blind as those who will not see . And none so deaf as those who will not hear . And in matters of the heart , this is even tougher …
I was once acquainted with this person who became over-excited whenever she met a "potential" boyfriend . She hyped herself and would read all sorts of things into the relationship , before it had even started . She would become starry-eyed , accompanied by a sense of neediness ~ a potent combination ~ enough to doom any possible relationship-in-the-making . The conclusion was always the same . She swallowed any BS dished out by the flame-of-the-moment , and set herself up for disappointment . Inevitably , she would end up broken-hearted . But she didn't learn …
She wasn't just thick-skinned . More like armour-plated . Or better still , bullet-proof . And she did it over and over again , a couple of times , to be precise . Like the movie Groundhog Day ? The gist of the story is : It is morning . Man wakes up in his guest house room . Lo and behold , it is the morning of the day before . All over again . Everything that happened to him the previous day , it all happens again . He spends the night again . Wakes up the next morning . It is the same day as yesterday and the day before and the same events repeat themselves , like a broken record . Action replay . Over and over . In her case , it was the same old BS , different man … get my drift ? One would think that she'd have a de-ja vu moment … She was definitely stuck in a time loop of self-delusion . It was risky business , treading on dangerous ground . Once you've been the route of tact and diplomacy , which obviously "fell on deaf ears", then what do you do to help ? You gotta tell it like it is . Quit pulling punches .
SHE : (dreamily) I think this is the one .
ME : Heard it all before … or have you forgotten ?
SHE : No , this time it's different .
ME : (skeptically) In what way ? Please do enlighten me …
SHE : Don't be such a party pooper ! At least be happy for me .
I give her that look . You know the one that says , are you right in your head ? Don't you ever learn ?
ME : Tell me , how did you meet ?
SHE : Through an online dating service .
ME : Tsk tsk tsk – you poor thing ! That reminds me of your ex , Mr. Serial-Dater . Remember him ? The one who made sure that all the chicks he dated knew that he was 'in demand' and a 'real catch' ?
Maybe reminders will help save the day !!
SHE : He is quite progressive . A real go-getter !
ME : Reminds me of your ex , Mr. Know-It-All . Remember him ? The brain box who bragged non-stop about his accomplishments and 'climbing the corporate ladder' ?
Maybe reminders will help save the day ??
SHE : And he has such gorgeous , dreamy eyes …
ME : Reminds me of your ex , Mr. Airhead Adonis . Remember him ? Your Mr-Gorgeous-To-Look-At but when he opened his mouth it became apparent that he should have kept it shut ?
Maybe reminders will help save the day .
By this time , she'd heard enough already … didn't want reminders , after all …
That was months ago . Just heard last week that Mr-Flame-Of-The-Moment has a recently-estranged wife … and wifey just won the lotto ! OUCH !!